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The Strangest Reasons People Have Gotten Divorced

The Strangest Reasons People Have Gotten Divorced

Divorce is no laughing matter and can be very devasting to a lot of families, but some people’s divorce stories are less heartbreaking and more ridiculous than others. Maybe some people were never meant to get married in the first place because of the reasons they cited for divorce are questionable at best.  These are some of the most ridiculous reasons that people have gotten a divorce.

Makeup or Break Up

An Arab man divorced his bride after he saw for the first time with no makeup after their wedding. He claimed that she lied to him and by using makeup and false eyelashes and after they went swimming and he saw her for the first time without it. They were engaged for six months before they split, and he refused any attempts for them to reconcile. Love isn’t totally blind.

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Losing the Lottery

After 22 years of marriage, a woman filed for divorce out of the blue from her otherwise happy marriage. Two years later it came out that she had won the California lottery and didn’t want to split the proceeds with her husband, so she instantly divorced him instead. A judge later ruled that because she violated the terms of their divorce by not declaring all of her assets, she had to give all of her winnings to ex.

Pillow Talk

A woman in 2012 divorced her husband because he was too talkative. Not only that, but he couldn’t keep any secrets to himself. She claimed that he would tell his family and friends everything that she wanted to keep between them. She later said that he didn’t trust her and that is where many of their issues arose.

Dirty Secrets

A woman in Egypt had to file for divorce after her husband would not shower for over eight weeks. He claimed that a skin condition would not let him shower because he was allergic to water. The skin condition was later confirmed by a doctor but the doctor said that the husband wasn’t allergic to water.  The woman was denied divorce the first time by the courts but then she filed for Khol’a – a law in Islam that allows women to get divorced after giving up some of their financial assets.

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Picking Up The Pieces

Going through a divorce is never easy, even if it is needed. After building a life with someone it can be devastating to tear it down and start over. How do you rebuild your life after a divorce? After the dust has settled and the worst of it is over, your life may look completely different than it did before. Here are some tips that will help you through this difficult time, and will help you move forward in a healthy way.

Let Yourself Grieve

A lot of people turn to destructive behaviors to avoid their feelings of sadness, anger, bitterness, and anxiety. Distracting yourself isn’t going to make those feelings go away,  they will linger until they are dealt with. Sometimes you might not feel sad about losing a spouse, but it is still a loss of a dream and a future together. Accepting your negative feelings is the first step to healing so choose activities that channel those feelings into sometime healthy. Don’t be afraid to go to a counselor to talk about them and have someone guide you through your grief. This is an important step that many people skip and those feelings tend to just fester and weigh them down.

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Learn New Hobbies

It might be time to learn to build those model airplanes that you have been wanting to learn. Or try rollerblading again. Maybe reach out to old friends and take a camping trip. Surround yourself with a great support group and do things that you enjoy will help you feel grounded in a time of upheaval. Making too many changes all at once will stress you out, so the more you establish a routine that you are familiar and comfortable with the better you will be able to adjust to your new life. A divorce is heartbreaking, so you should make a conscious effort to do things that you enjoy.

Learning to Love Again

It is not a good idea to rush into a new relationship right after one just ended. You might not be making the best decisions and can be blinded by emotions so instead of looking to start dating again try and give yourself some time. Maybe start slow, like going to group activities with people instead of one on one. You also might be missing your ex-spouse and trying to convince them that you can make it work again, but those might be misplaced feelings of fear of being alone instead of love. Every person’s situation is unique, so it is hard to say when and where they can start dating again.  Use your best judgment and know your emotional state so that you are making the best decisions for yourself when you deiced to enter the dating scene again. It’s best not to feel rushed or scared when starting this new chapter in your life.

Getting a divorce will bring a lot of changes in your life. It might take years before you feel like your life is back under control but that is ok.  A divorce is an intensely personal thing between two people that will cause pain, anger, grief, and bitterness. Learning to cope with those emotions and creating a new life for yourself can mean that a divorce won’t completely ruin your life, instead, it can be a learning experience that may even have some positive outcomes.

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Unexpected Consequences of Divorce

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Divorce is a complicated thing. Each situation is different. Although many people think they know how life will be after they have separated from their spouse, there are often unintended consequences that come after all is said and done. Having a clear picture of what might be waiting for you on the other side can help you have a clear vision of what divorce will mean for you and your family. Here are some common unexpected consequences of divorce.

 

Financial Effects

Divorce is expensive. People usually prepare for the expenses of the legalities that come with the process, but many people don’t anticipate extra costs of living after they’ve separated. Spouses often save money when living together with their children, especially when it is a double income household. Depending on the judge’s orders regarding alimony or child support, finances may be tight for either spouse after the divorce is finalized.

 

Emotional Effects

Many people look forward to freedom when they have separated from their spouse. They imagine entering the “single’s” scene and having a fresh start. However, ending a marriage relationship is always going to be an adjustment. Some people find the adjustment harder than others, and they harbor feelings of loneliness or even regret. Often, divorcees express difficulty seeing their ex find success and happiness during this time of transition.

 

Effects on Children

Learning to communicate with your children can be tough even with the most functional family situation. Throwing a divorce into the mix often makes things even more complex. Many people say that their children still have mixed and complicated feelings after the divorce has been finalized and some children feel the effects years later. It’s important to consider their position in the bigger perspective.

 

Each and every divorce is unique and complicated, regardless of the measures you take. However, having a competent lawyer can take a lot of the stresses off of your plate. The associates here at the Huntsman Firm can help you with all of your Family Law needs and advice. Contact us to schedule a consultation.

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Difference between Divorce, Annulment, and Legal Separation

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Many people get confused about the differences between the legal actions that you can take concerning your marriage relationship.  Although divorce is the most common course to take, it is not the only option, and it may not be the best fit for everyone’s situation. Annulment and legal separation are less common and apply to a more specific set of circumstances.

Divorce

A divorce, in the most simple terms, ends a marriage relationship. In fact, it ends all legal relationships between the spouses, except for those that are specifically outlined by the court. These relationships can include agreements about child custody, alimony, or division of property. There are many reasons to file for a divorce that are recognized by Utah courts, including “irreconcilable differences.”  

Annulment

Getting an annulment is different from a divorce because it doesn’t just end a marriage, it legally says that the marriage never happened. A court only orders an annulment for limited situations. Some examples of situations that qualify for an annulment are if one spouse was already married, one spouse was underage, or the spouses were closely related to each other. Other court recognized reasons include fraud and misrepresentation. Although the annulment means the marriage didn’t exist, there can still be agreements about child custody and property division. These will be ordered by the court.

Legal Separation

In Utah, this is referred to as “Separate Maintenance.” It does not end a marriage, but provides for a situation in which to spouses are living separately for one reason or another. It includes petitioning the court for alimony, child custody, property division, or a similar legal action without filing for a divorce. This type of action is appropriate in circumstances where one spouse has been deserted by the other, is not receiving support from the other or through no fault of his or her own, a spouse is living separately from the other. If the two spouses show reconciliation, the court order ends.

No matter your situation, the Huntsman Firm in St. George, Utah, is here to help you with all of your family law needs. Contact us today to schedule a consultation with one of our associates.

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Supporting a Friend through Divorce

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No matter the circumstances, divorce can be heartbreaking and hard. It takes a while to adjust to the changes of a new life. If you are watching a friend go through the divorce process, it can be difficult to know what to say or do to help them. Here are a few tips for being a good friend through the ups and downs.

Be a good listener

Your friend is going through a tough time. They have a lot going on in their mind and may not know exactly how they feel about everything. Right now, they just need to get things off their chest; they need someone to vent to. What they say may not make the most sense, but the best thing you can do is be a listening ear.

Don’t try to give advice

When your friend is telling you all of their problems, your first reaction may be to give them advice or tell them what you think. This usually is not helpful. Sometimes what they need to hear is different than what you think they should hear. It’s better to just hold your tongue, especially if you can tell your friend is sensitive. They can get all kinds of advice from their lawyer and other professionals. Your friend really just needs a friend — a shoulder to cry on.

Invite him/her to spend time with you

There are many consequences of divorce that your friend will be experiencing at this time. One of those is losing a lot of social interaction. Many of their married friends, especially ones they met through their ex, won’t keep in contact very well. That is why it’s important that you keep your friend a part of your life. Invite them over for dinner or a night on the town. Keeping them engaged will help them understand that you are a true friend.

Offer to babysit

Your friend has a lot on their plate. However, they often won’t know what they need or how to ask for it. You can be helpful by offering to watch their kids (for free) if they need to run errands or just have some down time. If your friend doesn’t have kids, you can find other ways to help them out. You could offer to clean their house, pick up groceries, cook dinner, etc. It may take a while for them to accept your acts of service, but if you keep trying, they will see that you are sincere.

If your friend is looking for a divorce attorney in the St. George, Utah, area, recommend that they look into The Huntsman Firm. The associates here focus specifically on family law and can offer legal advice and representation.

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History of Divorce

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Although King Henry VIII of England is often associated with the beginning of divorce in the modern world, the truth is that people had been ending their marriages long before this time. Important historical figures such as Julius Caesar and Charlemagne are known to have separated from their wives.

The history of divorce in the United States has primarily been driven by the laws that have been passed over the years. However, the first recorded divorce here happened in 1643, before the American Revolution and the formation of our country. The divorce was between Anne Clarke and her husband, Denis Clarke.

Starting in 1787, the Constitution gave all rights for divorce laws to the individual state legislatures. Divorce laws looked very different at that time than they do now.

Until the late 20th century, a spouse suing for divorce had to prove “fault.” This usually fell into categories of cruelty, abandonment, adultery, or mental illness. Even after this process, the case could still be dismissed in certain circumstances, such as guilt in the suing party.

By the 1960s, legislators and activists had become concerned that many people were using dishonest methods to get around the “fault” clause. In 1969, Ronald Reagan signed the Family Law Act for the state of California. This was the United States’s first “no-fault” law.

Since then, all 50 states have passed “no-fault” divorce laws. This means that someone doesn’t have to prove their spouse is at fault in any way to file for a divorce. They can divorce on the grounds of “irreconcilable differences,” or a similar reason.

Although divorce has been evolving for centuries, it still isn’t a perfect science. There are many reasons why a separation can be full of stress, heartache, and complications.

At The Huntsman Firm in St. George, Utah, we offer legal advice and representation that will give you the options you need, along with the assistance you are looking for. We focus on family and divorce law. We are committed to giving each case the attention it needs, and we have the experience and knowledge to help resolve your case and give you the best outcome under the circumstances. To schedule a consultation, contact us today.

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Divorce in the Limelight

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Tabloids are constantly turning heads in the grocery store with rumors of the next big celebrity divorce. Sometimes the rumors are true, and the famous stars split. These divorce cases are unbelievably complicated and can cost hundreds of millions of dollars; often during the process, accounts of cheating, abuse, and other scandals will surface.

The infamous relationship between Elizabeth Taylor and Richard Burton was such a situation. They met in 1963 on the set of the film Cleopatra. They were each married to other people at the time but divorced their previous partners to be together. Unfortunately, their run at marriage only lasted 10 years. At the time, this scandal was so widely-known that the Vatican even openly condemned the union.

However, your divorce doesn’t need to be shrouded in rumor and scandal to be complex. Everyone is unique, which means every divorce case and situation is different in its own way. Even if the separation is amicable, a divorce changes the lives of everyone involved. These changes often bring stresses and weights as you make related decisions.

Most divorces have to deal with financial as well as emotional and psychological elements. Common financial issues in divorce can include the following:

  • arranging property and investments
  • dividing debts
  • outlining expenses
  • understanding tax implications
  • adjusting retirement plans
  • child support or alimony
  • creating an inventory

This maze of money and finances should be navigated by a professional and should not be taken lightly.

Contact the professionals at The Huntsman Firm in St. George, Utah, for all of your legal divorce needs and questions. R. Clayton Huntsman has been practicing law for over 37 years and focuses exclusively on Utah Divorce and Family Law. He and his associates can provide legal advice and representation for your situation. To schedule a consultation, contact us today.

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On Do-It-Yourself Divorce

No two marriages are the same. Likewise, no two divorces are the same. When contemplating divorce, some may attempt to do it themselves (DIY).

The best advice one can give about Do-It-Yourself Divorce, is don’t.

Divorce cases are made up of many legal and financial complications. Irreversible mistakes can easily be made when attempting to do it yourself.

There are many issues that may need to be resolved during a divorce, including but not limited to:

  • Child custody, child support, parent-time
  • Alimony (sometimes called spousal support or maintenance)
  • Division of debt, property, and pension and retirement benefits

Even if a marriage has only lasted two or three years, there are no children, no assets or debts, and comparable incomes and no alimony, doing it yourself is putting yourself at risk. There may be future developments, such as inheritance, lawsuits, bankruptcy, or other matters which could affect custody, pension rights, or other matters. Each case has its own attributes requiring professional analysis and advocacy.

In many cases, the decision to divorce is unilateral, meaning one party wants the divorce and the other does not. It is also very likely that divorces are highly emotionally charged situations which can cloud judgement or alienate children, family members, and employers.

Carefully weigh your divorce options. The bottom line is that every family, and every divorce, is different. When proceeding with a divorce, it is vital to get the legal counsel needed in order to adequately protect yourself.

At The Huntsman Firm in St. George, Utah, we offer legal advice and representation that will give you the options you need along with the assistance you are looking for. We focus on family and divorce law. We are committed to giving each case the attention it needs, and we have the experience and knowledge to help resolve your case and give you the best outcome under the circumstances. To schedule a consultation, contact us today.

 

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Divorcing Over Tuna

In London, a man filed for divorce due to a recurring and unpleasant dinner menu. The man declared that his wife had “maliciously and repeatedly” served him his least favorite dish, tuna casserole.

Peculiar as it may seem, cases such as this one come up all the time in England, which unlike every state in the US, does not have a no-fault divorce law. Couples can only file for divorce under five categories, which include adultery and unreasonable behavior.

The reasons for divorce can vary widely. However, a divorce will only be granted according to certain circumstances. Grounds for divorce are regulations specifying the circumstances under which a person will be granted a divorce. States have their own divorce laws. Most allow what are essentially “no – fault” as grounds, but it may be called by other names such as “irreconcilable differences.” Each state has its own unique set of other grounds as well, such as adultery, cruelty, or desertion. A person must state the reason they want a divorce and be able to prove that this reason is well-founded.

When it comes to petitioning for divorce, things can become complicated. Receiving advice from friends and family can be risky, as every situation is entirely unique. It is essential to get experienced, committed and focused professional help in order to receive educated counsel and protection when going through a divorce.

At The Huntsman Firm in St. George, Utah, we offer legal advice and representation that will give you the options you need along with the assistance you are looking for. We focus on parentage and divorce law, and are committed to giving each case the attention it needs. We have the experience and knowledge to help resolve your case and give you the best outcome under the circumstances. To schedule a consultation, contact us today.

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Your Guide to Alimony

In its simplest terms, alimony is spousal financial support. This is not necessarily an automatic thing. It is different than child support or splitting property or debt or other assets. A judge will determine alimony only after the requesting party has officially requested it, and if certain circumstances exist.

The couple’s standard of living at the time of separation is the guiding principle of how much, if any, alimony is awarded the requesting party. Usually, both individuals are unable to maintain this standard of living they enjoyed at the time of separation, so a requestor will usually  have to  prove his or her case with the help of a trusted and competent attorney.  

Courts will consider the following

  • Financial circumstances and needs of requesting spouse
  • Financial circumstances and abilities of spouse paying alimony
  • Earning capacity
  • Duration of marriage
  • Custody of children
  • If one spouse paid for another spouse’s schooling or training.
  • Whether one of the individuals engaged in wrongful actions or habits that led to the divorce

 

Upon clarifying these factors, an amount will be decided upon by the judge. It is difficult to say how much alimony will be awarded every month.  A reasonable award should be  enough to cover reasonable expenses, but income or imputed income of the recipient spouse will be factored in.

Alimony is generally   available to the requesting spouse only for as long as the couple was married. For example, if wife and husband were married for ten years, alimony would  generally  only be paid for a maximum of ten years. Alimony payments will also be terminated if the requesting individual begins to cohabitate with someone else, or remarries, or extenuating circumstances require equitable treatment.  Age of recipient spouse can also be taken into account..

For all of your questions and concerns about divorce and family law, contact the professionals at the Huntsman Firm.  R. Clayton Huntsman focuses exclusively on family law, and has practiced law for over 37 years.