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Supporting a Friend through Divorce

A woman carries a basket of flowersNo matter the circumstances, divorce can be heartbreaking and hard. It takes a while to adjust to the changes of a new life. If you are watching a friend go through the divorce process, it can be difficult to know what to say or do to help them. Here are a few tips for being a good friend through the ups and downs.

Be a good listener

Your friend is going through a tough time. They have a lot going on in their mind and may not know exactly how they feel about everything. Right now, they just need to get things off their chest; they need someone to vent to. What they say may not make the most sense, but the best thing you can do is be a listening ear.

Don’t try to give advice

When your friend is telling you all of their problems, your first reaction may be to give them advice or tell them what you think. This usually is not helpful. Sometimes what they need to hear is different than what you think they should hear. It’s better to just hold your tongue, especially if you can tell your friend is sensitive. They can get all kinds of advice from their lawyer and other professionals. Your friend really just needs a friend — a shoulder to cry on.

Invite him/her to spend time with you

There are many consequences of divorce that your friend will be experiencing at this time. One of those is losing a lot of social interaction. Many of their married friends, especially ones they met through their ex, won’t keep in contact very well. That is why it’s important that you keep your friend a part of your life. Invite them over for dinner or a night on the town. Keeping them engaged will help them understand that you are a true friend.

Offer to babysit

Your friend has a lot on their plate. However, they often won’t know what they need or how to ask for it. You can be helpful by offering to watch their kids (for free) if they need to run errands or just have some down time. If your friend doesn’t have kids, you can find other ways to help them out. You could offer to clean their house, pick up groceries, cook dinner, etc. It may take a while for them to accept your acts of service, but if you keep trying, they will see that you are sincere.

If your friend is looking for a divorce attorney in the St. George, Utah, area, recommend that they look into The Huntsman Firm. The associates here focus specifically on family law and can offer legal advice and representation.

King Henry is commonly connected with the start of divorce

History of Divorce

King Henry is commonly connected with the start of divorceAlthough King Henry VIII of England is often associated with the beginning of divorce in the modern world, the truth is that people had been ending their marriages long before this time. Important historical figures such as Julius Caesar and Charlemagne are known to have separated from their wives.

The history of divorce in the United States has primarily been driven by the laws that have been passed over the years. However, the first recorded divorce here happened in 1643, before the American Revolution and the formation of our country. The divorce was between Anne Clarke and her husband, Denis Clarke.

Starting in 1787, the Constitution gave all rights for divorce laws to the individual state legislatures. Divorce laws looked very different at that time than they do now.

Until the late 20th century, a spouse suing for divorce had to prove “fault.” This usually fell into categories of cruelty, abandonment, adultery, or mental illness. Even after this process, the case could still be dismissed in certain circumstances, such as guilt in the suing party.

By the 1960s, legislators and activists had become concerned that many people were using dishonest methods to get around the “fault” clause. In 1969, Ronald Reagan signed the Family Law Act for the state of California. This was the United States’s first “no-fault” law.

Since then, all 50 states have passed “no-fault” divorce laws. This means that someone doesn’t have to prove their spouse is at fault in any way to file for a divorce. They can divorce on the grounds of “irreconcilable differences,” or a similar reason.

Although divorce has been evolving for centuries, it still isn’t a perfect science. There are many reasons why a separation can be full of stress, heartache and complications.

At The Huntsman Firm in St. George, Utah, we offer legal advice and representation that will give you the options you need, along with the assistance you are looking for. We focus on family and divorce law. We are committed to giving each case the attention it needs, and we have the experience and knowledge to help resolve your case and give you the best outcome under the circumstances. To schedule a consultation, contact us today.