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The Strangest Reasons People Have Gotten Divorced

The Strangest Reasons People Have Gotten Divorced

Divorce is no laughing matter and can be very devasting to a lot of families, but some people’s divorce stories are less heartbreaking and more ridiculous than others. Maybe some people were never meant to get married in the first place because of the reasons they cited for divorce are questionable at best.  These are some of the most ridiculous reasons that people have gotten a divorce.

Makeup or Break Up

An Arab man divorced his bride after he saw for the first time with no makeup after their wedding. He claimed that she lied to him and by using makeup and false eyelashes and after they went swimming and he saw her for the first time without it. They were engaged for six months before they split, and he refused any attempts for them to reconcile. Love isn’t totally blind.

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Losing the Lottery

After 22 years of marriage, a woman filed for divorce out of the blue from her otherwise happy marriage. Two years later it came out that she had won the California lottery and didn’t want to split the proceeds with her husband, so she instantly divorced him instead. A judge later ruled that because she violated the terms of their divorce by not declaring all of her assets, she had to give all of her winnings to ex.

Pillow Talk

A woman in 2012 divorced her husband because he was too talkative. Not only that, but he couldn’t keep any secrets to himself. She claimed that he would tell his family and friends everything that she wanted to keep between them. She later said that he didn’t trust her and that is where many of their issues arose.

Dirty Secrets

A woman in Egypt had to file for divorce after her husband would not shower for over eight weeks. He claimed that a skin condition would not let him shower because he was allergic to water. The skin condition was later confirmed by a doctor but the doctor said that the husband wasn’t allergic to water.  The woman was denied divorce the first time by the courts but then she filed for Khol’a – a law in Islam that allows women to get divorced after giving up some of their financial assets.

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Picking Up The Pieces

Going through a divorce is never easy, even if it is needed. After building a life with someone it can be devastating to tear it down and start over. How do you rebuild your life after a divorce? After the dust has settled and the worst of it is over, your life may look completely different than it did before. Here are some tips that will help you through this difficult time, and will help you move forward in a healthy way.

Let Yourself Grieve

A lot of people turn to destructive behaviors to avoid their feelings of sadness, anger, bitterness, and anxiety. Distracting yourself isn’t going to make those feelings go away,  they will linger until they are dealt with. Sometimes you might not feel sad about losing a spouse, but it is still a loss of a dream and a future together. Accepting your negative feelings is the first step to healing so choose activities that channel those feelings into sometime healthy. Don’t be afraid to go to a counselor to talk about them and have someone guide you through your grief. This is an important step that many people skip and those feelings tend to just fester and weigh them down.

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Learn New Hobbies

It might be time to learn to build those model airplanes that you have been wanting to learn. Or try rollerblading again. Maybe reach out to old friends and take a camping trip. Surround yourself with a great support group and do things that you enjoy will help you feel grounded in a time of upheaval. Making too many changes all at once will stress you out, so the more you establish a routine that you are familiar and comfortable with the better you will be able to adjust to your new life. A divorce is heartbreaking, so you should make a conscious effort to do things that you enjoy.

Learning to Love Again

It is not a good idea to rush into a new relationship right after one just ended. You might not be making the best decisions and can be blinded by emotions so instead of looking to start dating again try and give yourself some time. Maybe start slow, like going to group activities with people instead of one on one. You also might be missing your ex-spouse and trying to convince them that you can make it work again, but those might be misplaced feelings of fear of being alone instead of love. Every person’s situation is unique, so it is hard to say when and where they can start dating again.  Use your best judgment and know your emotional state so that you are making the best decisions for yourself when you deiced to enter the dating scene again. It’s best not to feel rushed or scared when starting this new chapter in your life.

Getting a divorce will bring a lot of changes in your life. It might take years before you feel like your life is back under control but that is ok.  A divorce is an intensely personal thing between two people that will cause pain, anger, grief, and bitterness. Learning to cope with those emotions and creating a new life for yourself can mean that a divorce won’t completely ruin your life, instead, it can be a learning experience that may even have some positive outcomes.